I’d like to thank Belle Knox, the stage name of the Duke University student for her brilliant and empowering essays regarding her career in the adult film industry and her refusal to feel shame for her involvement in it. Both pieces do much to chip away at our society’s default setting of shaming female sexuality (and sexuality in general) as well as bring to light the hate and hypocrisy we have regarding someone who embraces a sexuality that is not the norm.
I too have been marginalized and threatened for my progressive attitudes towards pornography and my own sexuality. No longer will I let myself feel shame. I am a 31 year-old American male and I watch pornographic movies.
Recently, I accidentally Liked a video on PornHub.com (Ashlee Gives foot Job), thereby having it post on my Facebook wall. I was inundated with cruel jokes and threats to defriend me. Here are few examples of recent Twitter posts, deemed to be “funny”:
Got SO much snow melt on my boots today!!! Oh wait, it was just @therealmikenew ;)
@redtube has @therealmikenew crashed your servers?
@shoegasm don’t let @therealmikenew “come” inside your store! he is #builttospill
I considered making some self-deprecating jokes or explaining some elaborate ruse about my cat hitting the “wrong” buttons. Then I read Belle Knox’s essays.
I watch porn. And I jack off when I do so.
People have been asking me, “What is it about porn that you like?” I like to see and hear attractive people having sex; it gives me an erection. Then I like to stimulate my penis so that I have an ejaculation. It feels really good. Why should I not tell the world when I do this?
I’m a decent well-meaning flawed person. I’m not a pervert and I’m not gross. I always volunteer to help my friends when they move. Sometimes I drink too much. I like outdoor activities like hiking and wind surfing. I’m not a “foot cum freak.” I am a man who likes orgasms and I like to unwind with some porn–that includes foot stuff. I’m you.
“But Michael, isn’t porn demeaning to women?” Belle already addressed this more eloquently than I could. And honestly, I’m just not into porn–real or staged–with even a hint of violence or humiliation toward a woman. I’m more into amateur voyeur stuff. Like hidden cameras showing couples having sex. And femdom foot worship. And mall and toilet cams (Check out Pauline Blart: Mall Cock)
What is so funny about watching porn when millions of people around the world do it? The video Ashlee Gives foot Job as of now, has 5,405,234 views. We are strong and our numbers are huge (disclaimer: I am 103 of those views).
Belle Knox, thank you for starting this dialogue. I greatly admire your courage and am sickened by the vitriol you have received. Know that you are not alone because many others and myself know your plight. We are supposed to feel shame for embracing pornography. Well, no more. Your fantastic and thought-provoking essays exemplify how in touch you are with your intellect and sexuality. I too aspire to be in touch with myself; I do so by touching myself.